What has shifted for you?
I realized I've been raising my son to be 'a good boy' in ways that were actually femmephobic — teaching him not to cry, to be strong, to not be 'too much.' I'm grieving a little, and also feeling hopeful.
What new questions are emerging?
How do I undo the messages I've already passed on? Is it too late? And how do I hold myself with compassion for not having known what I didn't know?
One thing you'll do differently
I'm going to have a conversation with my 11-year-old about this in an age-appropriate way. I want him to know that I see things differently now, and that his sensitivity is something I admire.