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Introduction

Welcome & How to Use the Workbook

Hopes & Dreams

Congratulations, It's a...

Girl Toys vs. Boy Toys

Socializing Agents

Binary Thinking

Time Out for Terminology

Locating Ourselves

Let's Play A Game

Let's Play Dress Up

Gender Binary vs. Gender Tapestry

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 1)

Femmephobia

Looking Closer at Toxic Masculinity

Let's Think About Femininity

Feminine Stereotypes

Locating Our Beliefs

Situating Our Beliefs

Rules About Femininity

Femmephobia on the Playground

Tomboys, Girly Girls..

I'm Not Like Other Girls

Killing Barbie

Femmephobia & Sports

Femmephobia in the Media

Femmephobia in the Family

What Feminine Part of Yourself...

Benefits of Femininity?

When Blue is Neutral

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 2)

Femme-Conscious Parenting

When Femininity Feels Impractical

The Hidden Message

Practicing Femme-Conscious Parenting

Stopping Femmephobia

Imagining Femme-Positive Futures

Evaluation Survey

Glossary

Is Support Really Different Now? (Vietnamese)

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"Is Support Really Different Compared to Before?" (có thật là sự ủng hộ đã khác biệt hơn so với trước đây?) Nova isnva · Vietnamese-language video essay Watch on YouTube

About This Video

Language: Vietnamese (no English subtitles available)

This 34-minute video essay by Vietnamese creator Nova explores how LGBTQ+ representation in Vietnamese media has changed over time — and asks a pointed question: does public support for one high-profile gay couple actually translate into broader acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community?

Using the viral popularity of the masculine-presenting couple Ninh Dương as a case study, Nova examines why they receive overwhelming public support while other LGBTQ+ couples — particularly those who are more feminine-presenting — face hostility and dismissal in comments and online forums. The video directly draws on Dr. Hoskin's femmephobia research (citing the 2019 Archives of Sexual Behavior paper) and discusses concepts including:

  • Masculine privilege within LGBTQ+ communities — how masculine-presenting couples are seen as more "legitimate" and receive more acceptance
  • Femmephobia in Vietnamese context — the devaluation of femininity as a factor in who gets supported and who gets ridiculed
  • The history of LGBTQ+ representation in Vietnamese media, from colonial-era newspaper debates to modern film and TV
  • Why the Boys' Love (BL/Ä‘am mỹ) genre outperforms lesbian (Bách hợp) content in Vietnamese media — and how this connects to the broader devaluation of femininity

Why This Resource Matters

This video is a valuable example of femmephobia scholarship reaching a general audience in a non-English-speaking context. It demonstrates that femmephobia is not just a Western concept — the same patterns of masculine privilege and feminine devaluation play out across cultures, including in how Vietnamese audiences respond to LGBTQ+ public figures.

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