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Introduction

Welcome & How to Use the Workbook

Hopes & Dreams

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Girl Toys vs. Boy Toys

Socializing Agents

Binary Thinking

Time Out for Terminology

Locating Ourselves

Let's Play A Game

Let's Play Dress Up

Gender Binary vs. Gender Tapestry

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 1)

Femmephobia

Looking Closer at Toxic Masculinity

Let's Think About Femininity

Feminine Stereotypes

Locating Our Beliefs

Situating Our Beliefs

Rules About Femininity

Femmephobia on the Playground

Tomboys, Girly Girls..

I'm Not Like Other Girls

Killing Barbie

Femmephobia & Sports

Femmephobia in the Media

Femmephobia in the Family

What Feminine Part of Yourself...

Benefits of Femininity?

When Blue is Neutral

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 2)

Femme-Conscious Parenting

When Femininity Feels Impractical

The Hidden Message

Practicing Femme-Conscious Parenting

Stopping Femmephobia

Imagining Femme-Positive Futures

Evaluation Survey

Glossary

How to Recognise Femmephobia (Anti-Femininity)

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How to Recognise Femmephobia (Anti-Femininity) Naomi Faasse Medium

About This Post

A practical guide to recognizing femmephobia in yourself, in how we raise children, and in everyday society — from gendered marketing to workplace discrimination. Offers three concrete steps for identifying anti-femininity attitudes.

Key Takeaways

  • Femmephobia is often internalized and unconscious — start by examining your own assumptions about femininity and weakness
  • For parents: Children — especially boys — are particularly vulnerable to femmephobia; they are ridiculed for liking "girlish things" like glitter, dolls, or the color pink, and told not to cry or show emotion
  • Even parents (especially fathers) can inadvertently reinforce femmephobia by expressing disappointment in a son's feminine interests
  • Gendered marketing reinforces the message that femininity is inferior — products must be repackaged "for men" to be socially acceptable

Read the Full Post

How to Recognise Femmephobia (Anti-Femininity) — Medium

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