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Introduction

Welcome & How to Use the Workbook

Hopes & Dreams

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Girl Toys vs. Boy Toys

Socializing Agents

Binary Thinking

Time Out for Terminology

Locating Ourselves

Let's Play A Game

Let's Play Dress Up

Gender Binary vs. Gender Tapestry

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 1)

Femmephobia

Looking Closer at Toxic Masculinity

Let's Think About Femininity

Feminine Stereotypes

Locating Our Beliefs

Situating Our Beliefs

Rules About Femininity

Femmephobia on the Playground

Tomboys, Girly Girls..

I'm Not Like Other Girls

Killing Barbie

Femmephobia & Sports

Femmephobia in the Media

Femmephobia in the Family

What Feminine Part of Yourself...

Benefits of Femininity?

When Blue is Neutral

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 2)

Femme-Conscious Parenting

When Femininity Feels Impractical

The Hidden Message

Practicing Femme-Conscious Parenting

Stopping Femmephobia

Imagining Femme-Positive Futures

Evaluation Survey

Glossary

Does Femininity Need a Makeover?

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Does Femininity Need a Makeover? Karen L. Blair Psychology Today — Inclusive Insight

About This Post

Introduces a special issue of Psychology & Sexuality on Critical Femininities — an emerging field that challenges us to rethink femininity as diverse, powerful, and worthy of respect rather than inherently subordinate to masculinity.

Key Takeaways

  • Femme Theory argues femininity is not inherently inferior — it is made subordinate by how society treats it
  • Femmephobia doesn't just devalue femininity; it regulates what counts as "acceptable" femininity (e.g., lady-like, prim, proper)
  • Traits like vulnerability and yielding can be understood as forms of feminine power, not weakness
  • For parents: Research in this issue covers tween behaviors and breastfeeding stigma — showing how femmephobia shapes family life from infancy through adolescence

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Does Femininity Need a Makeover? — Psychology Today

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