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Girl Toys vs. Boy Toys

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Locating Ourselves

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Gender Binary vs. Gender Tapestry

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 1)

Femmephobia

Looking Closer at Toxic Masculinity

Let's Think About Femininity

Feminine Stereotypes

Locating Our Beliefs

Situating Our Beliefs

Rules About Femininity

Femmephobia on the Playground

Tomboys, Girly Girls..

I'm Not Like Other Girls

Killing Barbie

Femmephobia & Sports

Femmephobia in the Media

Femmephobia in the Family

What Feminine Part of Yourself...

Benefits of Femininity?

When Blue is Neutral

Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 2)

Femme-Conscious Parenting

When Femininity Feels Impractical

The Hidden Message

Practicing Femme-Conscious Parenting

Stopping Femmephobia

Imagining Femme-Positive Futures

Evaluation Survey

Glossary

Femmephobia: Q&A with Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin

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Femmephobia: Q&A with Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin Aras Mommertz (interviewer); Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin (interviewee) Trent Arthur

About This Post

A student-journalist interview in which Dr. Hoskin explains femmephobia in accessible terms — covering its definition, micro-level expressions, impact on LGBTQ+ dating, and its deep connection to toxic masculinity. Part two of a two-part series on femmephobia in Trent Arthur.

Key Takeaways

  • Femmephobia is the systemic devaluation and regulation of femininity — especially femininities that veer from patriarchal norms (white, cis, heterosexual, able-bodied, thin)
  • Femmephobic micro-aggressions typically question "authenticity" — e.g., feminine lesbians told they're not "real" lesbians; feminine men questioned as "real" men
  • The "sissy vs. tomboy" asymmetry illustrates how femininity is treated as inferior: being called a sissy is far more insulting than being called a tomboy
  • Femmephobia drives much of toxic masculinity — from refusing to wear COVID masks to suppressing emotions and higher suicide risk
  • For parents: The interview highlights how children learn early that femininity is "lesser" — recognizing subtle femmephobia (e.g., using femininity as a joke or insult) is a first step toward change

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Femmephobia: Q&A with Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin — Trent Arthur

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