The creativity that comes with femininity — the making of beauty, the attention to detail, the nurturing of ideas and people. These things hold so much value that gets made invisible.
Femme-conscious parenting has made me more attentive to what I'm modeling. I try to celebrate the things I've been taught to minimize — my own softness, my expressiveness, my love of beautiful things.
What if celebrating femininity wasn't an act of resistance, but just... normal? What if kids grew up never learning to be ashamed of it? I think the ripple effects on gender-based violence would be profound.
The way women connect with each other — the deep friendships, the emotional attunement, the care. I love the way femininity makes space for people to need each other without shame.
When I started naming and valuing these things out loud in front of my kids, I noticed them starting to name them too. My son started saying he was proud of his kindness. That felt like a real shift.
I imagine a world where my daughter doesn't have to 'prove' herself to be taken seriously, and my son isn't mocked for crying at a movie. Where sparkly things aren't 'for girls' — they're just for people.