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Parenting Workbook Home
Introduction
Welcome & How to Use the Workbook
Hopes & Dreams
Congratulations, It's a...
Girl Toys vs. Boy Toys
Socializing Agents
Binary Thinking
Time Out for Terminology
Locating Ourselves
Let's Play A Game
Let's Play Dress Up
Gender Binary vs. Gender Tapestry
Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 1)
Femmephobia
Looking Closer at Toxic Masculinity
Let's Think About Femininity
Feminine Stereotypes
Locating Our Beliefs
Situating Our Beliefs
Rules About Femininity
Femmephobia on the Playground
Tomboys, Girly Girls..
I'm Not Like Other Girls
Killing Barbie
Femmephobia & Sports
Femmephobia in the Media
Femmephobia in the Family
What Feminine Part of Yourself...
Benefits of Femininity?
When Blue is Neutral
Gender Neutral Parenting (Part 2)
Femme-Conscious Parenting
When Femininity Feels Impractical
The Hidden Message
Practicing Femme-Conscious Parenting
Stopping Femmephobia
Imagining Femme-Positive Futures
Evaluation Survey
Glossary
A term describing someone (typically a girl or woman) who distances themselves from femininity in order to gain approval or validation, often from men. As discussed in the workbook, this is related to the 'cool girl' trope — someone who is depicted as being unlike 'other girls' who focus on 'silly' (i.e., feminine) things. The 'Pick Me Girl' phenomenon is rooted in femmephobia, where femininity is devalued and rejecting it becomes a strategy for social acceptance.